Dating Philosophy #3

I have discovered that I cannot date people who remind me of
my "past" (you know what I mean?)

You know...as soon as similar mannerisms appear
That's the end...
somehow they seem less than attractive, and fall into the immediate category of "just friends"
Is that bad? pre-judging?
It's like I assimilate those mannerisms with lack of trust...
I can't do it.



Dating Philosophy #3.5:
It's possible I am too old to be in a BYU-Idaho singles ward
...I kind of miss the ward in Utah where there was a larger range in ages
maybe it's because I was younger then.

I am definitely feeling...
older.
Most people in these wards range from 19 - 23
(I know that's kind of a generalization)
I know there are guys my age here in Rexburg...
Good. Single. Available guys...

I was talking to a guy
...he looked about my age
he is actually 3 years younger than me...
When he found out my age he graciously moved on.

Now I am not saying that I don't find younger guys attractive
...it just makes me feel old especially with reactions like that.

back to the drawing board.

(haha. More to come.)

Note:
I chose to start writing these because I finally decided that it was simply time to put myself out there. This is the year. Time to adventure, and make friends. Time to date for real. I am tired of "hanging out." I am tired of feeling the way I do. I am tired of reflecting regrettably upon the decisions I have made to hold myself back in the past...so I am adventuring into the unknown world...gulp...of dating. I am simply going to do it. Most of these are in reply to the experiences that occur because of this outlandish decision. haha.

Dating Philosophy #2

Singles Activities
...are not a good place to find single (normal) guys

If you have seen singles ward
you know what I am talking about

They saying comes to mind:

"Guys are like parking spaces;
They are either taken or handicapped"

Yet I endeavor to find a parking spot so I sit and wait...

Dating Philosophy #1 - The First Date

The first date is like a long interview.

And all the while you are thinking...What can I ask that will help me best get to know this person. I try to avoid small talk, but alas on the first date...sometimes it is necessary.

Movies are somewhat awkward on a first date...because you are trying to watch the movie, and all the while being concerned about where you put your hands as to not give the wrong gesture...Ladies we don't want to move too fast. Hand holding is a 3-4th date affair.

While you are on the date you are trying to take everything in stride...I know we are not supposed to compare people, but when there is someone in your past who reminds you of someone who may become part of your future...is that grounds to compare?

I try to pass no judgment because first impressions are often misleading...however there were certain mannerisms that reminded me of another reckless relationship and brought back a flood of memories...and red flags that I missed in previous situations... I am not sure if these are premature...

Although I enjoy the first date setting...I think I would much rather meet someone for the first time on common ground rather than a first date. It would relieve much of the awkwardness...

and that's my philosophy.

More to come.